Ever wondered why isolation tends to grow when we’re on a journey to finding ourselves? Why does the journey of self-discovery may be accompanied by isolation? Let’s cover the topic in this article.
Some of the reasons why isolation might occur
Oftentimes, the path of self-discovery leads towards not being understood by others, not being in line, or “walking” with others in the journey. Hence, as a result, we may feel that we are isolated. It may feel like we’re completely alone. Even though it feels scary, I believe it’s a part that we should go through. But, why does that happen?
Separation from social construct and expectation
By being ourselves, at some point, we might realize that we do not adhere to social constructs and expectations. Which also include family expectations or any expectations from our close ones. The construct or expectation doesn’t define us best, or even, contradict ourselves. This might be why sometimes, having the journey of self-discovery might be assisted with isolation.
Breaking out of the social construct and expectations are also a huge process and require a conscious effort. It means that we are defining ourselves among all of the societal pressures (you can read about breaking out of societal pressure here). By breaking out of that box, we might realize that we are different, which leads to the next point.
The realization that we are different
As stated before, dissociation from social constructs and expectations might go towards the realization that we are different. We are different from all the societal pressure, different from others in terms of the process of defining ourselves. Even, different from our relatives or close friends. This will also fuel the feeling of isolation.
By knowing ourselves more, we tend to notice all the parts that make us different or separate us from others. We might even compare ourselves to others. For example, “Wow, her life seems so easy?”, “Why am I different compared to my best friend?”. This might be terrifying as this feels like a price to pay in order to find ourselves, but, as I said before, this is also an important step for us to pursue.
Some ways to deal with isolation
After we identify some reasons why we tend to feel isolated in the journey of self-discovery, let’s discuss some of the ways to deal with it.
Keep going
This might sound very simple, but at some point, it might feel hard. We still need to acknowledge that we feel isolated, and make sure it doesn’t stop us from discovering ourselves more. I think it’s better to keep going with the hopes of finding more common-minded individuals. Because, if we’re breaking out of the societal box and expectations or the “crowd”, we might also see others outside the box or the crowd. This will also lead to the next point.
Seek out communities or help if needed
Walking out of the box of societal pressures and expectations, on the positive side, may lead us towards new communities consisting of like-minded individuals. This might also feel hard as well because, at some point, we’re breaking away from the “crowd”. Hence, it might be hard, but there will be a way. Also, don’t hesitate to seek help from a professional if you need help or the feeling has become too much to handle.
